25 Things I Wish I Could Achieve in 25

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Last February I turned 25. As in the previous years, I made a mandatory post-birthday posts, so here I am presenting to all of you (well, I don’t think people would read this) the 25 some kind of achievements that I wish I could accomplished before turning 26. Mostly about self development, not materials I would like to have in the future.

  1. Be nice to everyone such as greeting and throwing smiles people
  2. Always remember to say and do kind things to people because I know, I want to be treated the same way
  3. See everything from different perspective
  4. Stop being a judgmental human
  5. Think twice then act smart
  6. Work on every tasks assigned with smile and sincere heart
  7. Stop using bad words/ swearing
  8. Be curious to things that really matters in my life
  9. Mean to say “thank you”, “help”, and “sorry” depends on the situations
  10. Upgrade my patience to the next level everyday
  11. Speak out what really bothers in my mind and heart with lower tone
  12. Make a small talk to some acquaintances and try to not hate it
  13. Talk to my mom politely with extra patience
  14. Do night prayer at least three times a week
  15. Listen to my deepest heart, not easily be converted to what people want me to be
  16. Keep calm and be silent when I don’t have anything to say, or say something better
  17. Wake up earlier than my husband and not proceed after fajr sleep
  18. Arrived safely in the office at 8 sharp (omg this is so hard to do)
  19. Eat vegetables and fruits that I never tried before
  20. Read Gartner, McKinsey, Frost & Sullivan (or whatever it is) journals in regular basis
  21. Gain knowledge and understanding of financial management
  22. Exercise at least once a week
  23. Perform the pilgrimage to Mecca
  24. Get preggo preferably a baby boy, but a baby girl is OK
  25. Buy a house

Bismillahirahmanirahim.

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Before Quarter

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When I look at calendar this morning, I was surprised by the fact that I am going to turn twenty-five this year. A quarter of my life, if I would still live a hundred years. It feels like I just was born like seventeen years ago, when my life was considered as easy as Sunday morning compared to my recent life. When my world was just about school, hang out with real friends, make some friends through internet, surfing the internet for hours with one and many intentions—one of them is to find out good non-mainstream musics from not-so-famous artists from somewhere in Europe, try to be cool by doing what ‘cool kids’ do such as smoking and drinking, capture whatever attractive from my perspective with my finally-after-seven-months-of-savings analogue camera named Holga, fall in and out of love, along with other youth activities that mostly done just to be looked cool.

Now, life is getting bit serious. It is not about being cool to impress people anymore. Instead of looked cool, it is more important to be smart and reliable to anyone. By the words real friends, it means someone or few of people who care about you and asking for their help is not necessary because they will help you wholeheartedly. Idle times are still available, but it is not that much as I got back then, it means non-mainstream music hunting is limited for only few hours. In fact, I keep on updating and enrich my music-pedia by listening to the radio, and the sad news is I started to like those top 40 songs, which I made fun of back then. Life also teach me that being cool is definitely not measured by how many cigarettes you smoke and how many variety of alcoholic beverages you try and drink, but how you appreciate your precious life by stay healthy. Last year, I have just learned that fall in love with God is the key to meet the true love. That was the most valuable lesson I learned and here I am, a wife.

In my twenty fourth of ages, I trade most of my times with sitting on the chair, dealing with Excel rows and PowerPoint slides, and going home with tired face. Since I got married, I also have responsibilities as a wife, which I perform right after we arrived at home. Sometimes I am still surprised by the fact that I have just became an adult with lot of responsibilities, I should do all these things. I wish I could turn back time for awhile, back to the day when I was a kid who has less responsibility than I am right now, and I would never ever wish to grow up. Yup, because growing up is a trap. Now I get it. Well, please take a note that it does not mean that I am an irresponsible person, it is just I need a break in certain times.

It took less than ten years to have the game changed. I wondered if my life would be looked like in the next shortest five year. I am a little bit afraid of losing all my sense of humor, the random and weird ideas in my head, the creativity, and even patience that I have, just because of this kind of semi-boring life drives me to become less happier. Speaking of creativity, actually I just realized that it was kinda gone since long time ago. Maybe because of I do not read for a long time, I am often lost in words. FYI, this post is one of the results. I know that this post has no quality compared to old posts I made when I was enjoyed reading articles, blogs, and other reading materials. Moreover, when it is compared to others’ posts, whoa, just don’t. Maybe I need to relight my fire once again to read and write. Maybe I need new activities, because when it comes to achievement, I am far away behind from others, especially when people at my age is very bright, they are able to give something meaningful to the society, to the world. Me? Still defining what goals in life that I want to achieve. So lame. However, I believe that God, my family, and few of real friends will give me strength to live my life.

(This post is purely published as a result of boredom during office hours and a little bit worry of facing the truth that I will be twenty five this year)

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Throwback

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The past twelve months were amazing. I’d like to say that 2016 was one of the best years in my life. There were lot of life changed, which I’ve never imagined before, and of course lessons learned. Like the one that I made 3 years ago, I’d like to post this year’s highlights. However, this year’s post won’t be the same as the previous one. I’d only share the highlights of the year, not each month’s highlights. So, here we go!

January: Turning Point
I started this year by crying out loud overnight at Pondok Indah Mosque. Never in a million years I would have such an idea to celebrate New Year by doing i’tikaf at some mosque. The truth is, the idea was only a joke between me and my best friend, Fifi. Both of us were totally not that kind of religious persons, but the idea came just because we wanted to try something new and different, and of course in the right time: New Year’s Eve.

What we really did at the mosque during i’tikaf were chatting, laughing, reading Qur’an for awhile, taking some wefies, and then giving a shot of laughter to whatever we saw in our smartphone screen. But then, when it came to Night Prayer or Tahajjud, I felt something so warm, touching, sad, all those feelings mixed up in my heart until my tears burst. Suddenly, all the sins I did in the past and those people who I hurt were recalling in my head and I needed God’s mercy. So I beg for His forgiveness and pray for the best in the upcoming years.

After i’tikaf, I felt somehow extremely happy and relieved. I even forgot about my brokenhearted story I had in two-or-three months earlier. Three weeks later, I made a big decision to covering up my body and wearing hijab all of my life. It was a big, once again A BIG decision I’ve ever made in my life. Honestly, the idea never crossed my mind because I thought I don’t deserve to wearing hijab while I don’t act like a Muslim, at least act like a good girl. But then I have this willing to make a change, to be a better person, and hopefully I could act like the real Muslim properly.

February: Rendezvous
I met my husband on February. When I met him for the first time, I didn’t have any feelings that the man who sat in front of me would be my husband for life. To having a relationship with this nerdy guy was never happened in my head.

But God had another plan. God planted a package of love in his mind and heart and made him goes lovestruck every time he sees me. LOL! Anyway, I’ve posted the story about how we met from the very beginning. Please take a look at this post to read the whole story.

March: The Proposal
It only took a month from the very first hello on WhatsApp to our commitment to getting married. I guess it’s the instant gift from God for making such a big decision on January.

He asked me when we had a dinner—it wasn’t a fancy one tho— right after we had finished our plate of ribs. He arranged three items on the table; an empty glass of mine, soy sauce, and salt saucer; as examples to explain the journey to the wedding day. Then we called it ‘Glass, Soy Sauce, and Salt Phase’, wished we could pass all the phases well, made a Salt Timeplan, and told our parents about the big plan.

May: Engagement Day
Glass phase had been passed so well, so we moved to the next phase: Soy Sauce. The event was held in my house. I was a bit nervous when I walked down the staircases, looked back at all people down there who starring at me, and gave a reception speech in front of about a sixty people. Read more here.

July: Europe Trip
The first nine days of July was unforgettable. I had a chance to visit 5 countries in Europe, they are: United Kingdom, Netherlands, France, Switzerland, and Belgium. It was my last family trip as a single and I enjoyed every seconds of it.

As usual, we hired a travel agent to guide us. The tour guide, named Alex, was very friendly, informative, and helpful. London was the first city we visited. Castles are the most visited point of attraction, then like the most tourist, we made a stop at Buckingham Palace, Tower of London, and London Bridge. We also visited Stamford Bridge, the home ground of Chelsea FC. Unfortunately, Bimo wasn’t there, knowing that he’s a big fan of Chelsea.

Next destination was Zurich, Switzerland. I’d just knew that they have the best fish and chip! Anyway, the highlight of the journey at Zurich wasn’t that. We went uphill to Mount Titlis by taking cable car. All I could see just a wide spread of white snow on a mountain and it was freaking freezing. Then we went to Lucerne, a city in central Switzerland.

In the next morning, we moved to Paris, France. Unfortunately, there was a football event held in Paris, so we couldn’t make it to garden area at Eiffel Tower. The snapshots we took were from the very very low angle right below the tower. Unlucky us. The moms were very happy while the bus we rode was heading to Galeries Lafayette and Marne-la-Vallée. The highlight of Paris trip was my short reunion with my long-time-no-see friends; Lia & Tesya.

The fourth city we visited was Brussels, Belgium. It was a short city-haul to Grand Place, Manneken Pis, and Atomium. Then we had to move to Amsterdam, our last destination of the trip. I fell in love in the first sight with Amsterdam city. Bicycles is everywhere. All people rode bicycles, no matter how stylish they are, how many the luggage they carry. Last but not least, we went to see Volendam city for couple hours, just to take some pictures on Netherlands traditional costumes.

Strolling around Europe on July was one of the best trips ever in my life.

September: The Wedding Day
The big day!

I will never forget 24th of September 2016, the first day of being someone’s wife, having a lifetime partner . The day that changed my single status to married. Alhamdulillah everything went pretty well. I’ve made a post about my wedding day here, in case you’re wondering how my nervous face look like.

December: Europe Trip Vol. 2
Thank God, I had another chance to come back to Europe. It was 8 days trip to 6 countries: Netherlands, Italy, Vatican, France, Monaco, and Spain. The weather was super freakin’ cold since it was winter, but unfortunately the snow hadn’t fallen down yet (somehow I’m grateful that it hadn’t snowed yet). Actually, I’m not in the mood to tell you the whole story of my second Europe trip. Maybe in another post.

That’s all. Thank you 2016. And I’m ready to welcome 2017. I hope 2017 will be filled with more love, healthiness, happiness, and of course lucky. Aamiin.

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